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Family members, friends, and colleagues who are aware of the addiction, care about the person, and have been affected by their behavior can participate in the intervention. The interventionist works with the extended family to help determine who will have a positive impact on the outcome. People most affected by the actions of the addict and those who are likely to support the person during their recovery are very important to the process. The critical thing is that there be some relationship with the affected person, and ideally an interest in helping them overcome their addiction.
Can the family hold an intervention without an interventionist?
A family can hold their own intervention in just the same way someone can remove their own appendix without a surgeon: it’s possible, but it’s not recommended. Just as you can’t treat your loved one for their addiction, you usually can’t help him or her realize that they need help. You’ve probably tried over and over. Interventionists have training and experience to deal with this emotionally charged situation. For a variety of reasons, family dynamics usually require a neutral professional to ensure that effective communication happens. Without someone to mediate and guide the intervention, it can quickly become a free-for-all of negative energy and it could push the addict farther away. When confronted by their family and friends, an addict is going to be defensive, angry or even violent. Wouldn’t you feel better if a professional was guiding you and your family through this process?
How do I hire an interventionist?
That’s why we are here. We understand that just reaching out requires courage and trust. Talk to us and you will know you are talking to a caring professional. For an intervention to work, everyone must feel safe and respected, which is why you should choose an interventionist who is a certified professional. Darren Kavinoky is a Certified Intervention Professional (as certified through the Pennsylvania Certification Board (PCB), as well as a member of The Association of Intervention Specialists (AIS), and the Network of Independent Interventionists (NII). In those rare circumstances where Darren and his team are not the right fit for your family, Intervention Partners will help connect you to an interventionist that can help you.
What does the family do after?
If your loved one agrees to go for treatment, it is a time of hope and joy. Let yourself feel those emotions, but understand that there will be peaks and valleys during the coming months. If the addict refuses help, you may feel a range of negative emotions. You’ve already lost your loved one to their disease before the intervention. Stand by your bottom line and support each other during this time. Your interventionist can give you coping strategies and help you through the next step. As long as an addict is alive, there is always another chance.
How long does this take? What is the timeline?
Given the urgent circumstances surrounding most interventions, at Intervention Partners, we believe in creating custom-tailored solutions to address the unique needs of each family. There have been cases where an intervention has taken place the same day we were contacted, because that’s what was required to save the life of the affected person. In other cases, a more measured, strategic approach with multiple meetings is required. We are absolutely committed to finding the best solution for you and your family, keeping everyone’s best interests in mind, but especially that of the addicted person who is in grave danger.
Unfortunately, there is no fixed timeline for getting sober. The intervention process may happen at lightning speed, or it may take time. Sometimes an addict isn’t ready to accept help. (link to the intervention page) We need time to prepare the participants before the intervention. A date is scheduled for the intervention, however addicts can be unreliable and they may not show up for the appointment. Sometimes the intervention meeting is short if the addict has been waiting for this kind of help and agrees to go to treatment. You must accept that the time length varies, and even after the intervention, time must be invested in helping your loved one stay sober.
What if the person tried sobriety/AA or had an intervention before?
Family members and friends of the addicted person have good cause to be pessimistic: Lying and manipulative behavior is often “standard operating procedure” for an addict or alcoholic. Broken promises, failed past attempts at sobriety, even past trips to rehab centers do not make a situation hopeless. Getting someone to the real solution, to where they are able to maintain long-term sobriety, is like peeling an onion: it is done one layer at a time. Sometimes those “layers” show up as past efforts to get clean and sober. People who don’t fully understand the disease of addiction may look at those past “failures” as evidence that sobriety is impossible. Experts in the field know that those past experiences are simply experiences that needed to happen in order for the affected person to finally be ready. There is an oft-heard and applicable expression that “It takes what it takes.”
Sometimes a person isn’t ready to accept treatment after an intervention, or they relapse while pursuing treatment. Some addicts find that they need additional assistance apart from initial treatment recommendations. And it’s never too late to try again.